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5 reasons we desire a high value man but settle for the average

Let us start by understanding what a high value man is. He is the man who will protect, provide and profess (the 3 P’s every man should possess.) A high value man is the kind that has got his life together and if not he should be working towards achieving that. He knows his life’s priorities. When he is ready to settle down with you, you won’t ask his intentions because he’s clear about his intentions. That is the kind of man we all desire. We want to be with someone who will make us feel visible, loved and cared for. But in most cases, this remains a wishful thinking as we settle for the average. You know, that guy who is always late, let’s you pay for dates, makes you question the dynamics of your relationship, and you have probably even thought of leaving him at least once.

Of course even the high value man has flaws cause, who doesn’t! So, here are some reasons we end up settling for the average Joe.

Fear of dying alone

I am partly guilty of doing this. I used to date, not because I was afraid of dying alone but because I was afraid of being lonely. That was a huge mistake. When you date because you don’t want to be alone, you are likely to end up with the first person who shows you some kind of attention. This might be someone who is far from what you desired. Trust me, a little patience goes a long way. Don’t settle out of loneliness or fear of being alone.

Pressure from outside sources

This is the main reason why most people end up settling for less than hat they actually deserve. When you are around people who always make you feel like you are late for something, you are most likely to rush yourself to something that is way below your standards. Most of the time, the pressure is usually just “noise” that should be ignored. Live the kind of life that you have always dreamed of and you will never regret your decision later.

Believing that what you want is too good for you

Pardon my language but this kind of thinking is just bullshit. For a high value woman, confidence should be radiating from you. It is one of the most attractive thing that attracts high value men. Whether or not that man is out of your league, he can never be too good for you. Sashay your way to leveling up and watch how that goes.

Fear of hurting his feelings

So you are already in a relationship or on your way to one but this is not exactly the kind of man you wanted. For some reason, you lowered your standards, your expectations and compromised for him. Is it really worth it in the end. When you stay with a person out of pity that leaving him will scar him, you are already sabotaging yourself for a bad relationship. Maybe it will not be the case in the beginning but with time you might start to feel unfulfilled. You will live to crave for something your partner can never give.

Afraid to leave

What are people going to think? What if I leave and end up alone? What if I leave and he gets someone better? What if…Oh! so many What ifs. These are just in your imagination. Why not leave and let life happen. Do you want to feel stuck your entire life? Do you care that much about what people will say more than for your happiness? You know all the answers so, Dear darling, do what makes you happy and wait for a man who you wont have to settle for.

Photo credits: Photo by Kristina Tripkovic on Unsplash

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